I’m not hiding who this is. It’s Becky, Greg’s wife (owner of DB) As most of you know, I’m not a diver. I have the same fear of the water and honestly, absolutely no desire to see under the water. I know that most of you don’t understand that because ya’ll love the water but I just don’t. For years, Greg tried to talk me into diving and still occasionally does. He can ask all that he wants but I think he has half way accepted that I’m not going to do it. Period. (hehe... sorry baby!) For years, I kicked myself in the butt for not making myself decide to get certified because it would be important to Greg if I did but I don’t care to but I’m not holding him back from it. Maybe it sounds like I’m stubborn to some of you that I won’t but Greg and I make it work in our relationship. I’m all for Greg going out and diving. Whether he meets a buddy for a local dive or if we go on a dive vacation and he dives with others and I have a drink on the beach or snorkel while he’s diving from a boat. I’m totally supportive because he LOVES the sport. I would hate myself if I kept him from that. If we had more $$ and Greg was able to take off work, I’d want him diving alot more often. We’d be tan from tropical vacations together.
With your wife, I honestly feel sorry for you. As someone else said, ya’lls problem (I FEEL) isn’t about diving. Maybe it’s control with her saying no or just giving you crap when you bring up the idea, her shooting it down. I’m sure she knows by this point how exciting diving is for you so she should be willing to meet 1/2 way.
A vacation so that she can relax and get away while you dive would be wonderful for you both, I’m sure. Doesn’t everyone need to get away from the real world? She can choose how she wants to spend her time. Whether she’s worried that you’ll meet some hot girl on the dive boat or you’re going to make a bad choice and something happen under water or you’re wasting money.. it doesn’t matter. She needs to trust you and with diving and in life in general if ya’ll are going to make the marriage work.
I’m not for divorce but I understand in some situations, it may be necessary. However, besides this being ya’lls life together... this is YOUR life and I would hate for anyone to grow old with regrets..
Again, these are just my thoughts.. ignore them if you want to.
Good luck!